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Narcissist Q/A – Friday the 13th – What Compels People to Take Advantage of Others?

QUESTION: What Compels People to Take Advantage of Others? I don’t understand.

ANSWER: The easy answer… people are bullies and sometimes people allow themselves to be taken advantage of for fear of loss.

Narcissus
Narcissus (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The complicated answer… Some people (narcissists) feel they are better, superior, in a different class and while it may manifest in many ways, such as fame, wealth, power, etc, the fact remains that whatever they do achieve in life is never enough, if they are not at the top of the heap.

Most will lie, cheat and steal without thought other than the risk and penalty of being caught albeit in business or personal life. They want/need your compliments, admiration, attention along with their power and material things. These people leave you powerless, exhausted and drained. They have a total lack of empathy for others, particularly family and friends.

This lack of empathy allows them to take advantage of those closest to them to get their own “desires” met… regardless of the pain or hurt it causes someone else. Sensitive people are most often directly targeted because the narcissist will take advantage of compassion you’ve managed to cultivate over years of life and experience.

English: Picture of myself, I am a narcissist....
English: Picture of myself, I am a narcissist. For use on userpages. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It’s almost impossible to completely avoid narcissists and there are things you can do to protect yourself from those who think of themselves as masters of deception.

The narcissist will groom you in the same manner a sexual predator does. The narcissist knows what you want and need emotionally. The narcissist knows how to make you feel good as part of their confidence scheme. They know how to say the right things at the right times particularly with insincere compliments. You can’t fix them and it’s not your job to do so.

Stop, think… act. Protect your heart. Don’t be afraid to turn around and exit the closest door and walk away. Don’t forget to lock the door behind you… from the outside, so you can’t be followed.

You have to know who you are and what you want. STOP the vampire in it’s tracks.

This question is directly related to PTSD threat assessments and hyper-vigilance…

Keep Your Politics Off of MY Facebook

Salt-N-Pepa
Cover of Salt-N-Pepa

Let’s talk about sex bay-bee… Let’s talk about you and me… Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be.” [Salt ‘N’ Pepa]

Let’s talk about cats and dogs…
Let’s talk about philosophy…
Let’s talk about crime…
Let’s talk about sexual predators
Let’s talk about hunger…
Let’s talk about homelessness…
Let’s talk about the things we like…
Let’s talk about family…
Let’s talk about love…
Let’s talk about peace…
let’s talk about happiness…
Let’s talk to friends…
Let’s laugh…
Let’s be social…
Let’s share happy things…
Let’s talk about the good…
Let’s be a voice for something good…
Let’s be something good…
Let’s make a difference…

Political speech on facebook is oversimplified propaganda no matter what the political flavor is. Posting political meme’s with images and text demonizing a politician is propaganda. None of it contributes to a real conversation. It only shows us your intolerance for your neighbor… your friends… your family. Why would you want to alienate them???

It makes you hateful and say things you would never say to someone’s face. It’s tantamount to proselytizing religious beliefs and trying to convert someone so they fit the image you want to see in them. Propaganda will never influence an opinion that should be based on fact, not feeling.

It makes YOU UNHAPPY!!! It makes YOU miserable. It makes you obsessively watch talking heads on competing entertainment (news) networks. It makes you argue about the arguments.

DO YOU WALK INTO SOMEONE’S HOME AND CALL THEM A FUCKING ASSHOLE (OR WORSE) BECAUSE OF THEIR POLITICAL, SOCIAL OR RELIGIOUS BELIEFS??? IF YOU TALK POLITICS ON FACEBOOK, THAT’S WHAT YOU ARE DOING. THE POLITICAL MESSAGE ON FACEBOOK POISONS REASONABLE DEBATE. IT’S ALL INSULTING.

OK… tell us your opinion… ONCE… if at all. Posting images of hate and ignorance alienates friends and family and diminishes the value of more personal things, more valuable things you want to share. Who cares about the beautiful picture of your child or your dog when it is surrounded by your hatred of someone across the street and their beliefs.

How many times do you have to tell us about the 2nd amendment and how someone is (not) going to take your weapons. No one is taking mine. No one is taking yours… unless of course your a convicted felon or someone else who shouldn’t have a weapon because they are a danger to themselves or others. It’s all bullshit.

None of it is “social”. It’s entirely anti-social.

STOP IT… NOW!