“In a world as electronically connected as ours, other than shooting Bieber into the silent void of space (which the Geneva Convention lists as a war crime against space), there is nothing we can do to protect our children from the toxic effect this stunted Vanilla Ice has and will continue to have on our culture.
But that doesn’t mean we have to let him stay in our home.
Every day we deport those who come here with no agenda other than to work hard, keep their head down, pay taxes, raise a family, and pursue the American Dream in a noble and honorable way. But we’re housing this little pantywaist and his posse?
>”Promoting ‘responsible drinking and driving’ is like promoting ‘responsible drive-by shootings’.”—MADD’s Driven Magazine, Fall, 1997. (This was in their nationally distributed magazine.)
>”The only safe amount of alcohol when you are mixing driving and drinking is zero – double zeros, no alcohol,” says MADD’s Tina Pascoe. (They swear they are not for Prohibition.)
“Forget limits on BAC. It’s just not acceptable to drink and drive, period” – Madd President Wendy Hamilton. (And since we can’t eliminate driving, let’s eliminate drinking.)
>”…I had ceased my affiliation with M.A.D.D. when they would no longer allow me to say the name God or Jesus Christ when I spoke to people about the story of my daughter.”—Former MADD coordinator, Vicki Soles. (Must be the disturbing fact that Jesus drank wine.)
>“Last year, 24,000 nationwide lost their lives because of drunk drivers.”— Theresa McNeil, MADD spokeswoman on WXON-TV. (Misspoken again? The MADD message loud and clear: Already inflated Alcohol-related death numbers equal drunk driving deaths.)
>Chief Justice William Rehnquist in 1990, “No one can seriously dispute the magnitude of the problem…drunken drivers cause an annual death toll of over 25,000.” –from the Supreme Court decision allowing sobriety checkpoints. (Alcohol-related deaths equal drunk driving deaths. Now where did he get that idea?)
> ”Once you’ve consumed your first drink, you’ve lost that ability to make a sound judgment.” —MADD Chapter President, Penny Wagner. (That explains a lot about our lawmakers.)
>”Drunk driving is one of the most frequently committed violent crimes in the United States, killing 16,653 people last year, according to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration.”—Nationwide Insurance Poll press release, Dec, 2001. (They have also learned the art of misspeaking. Nationwide is a financial contributor to MADD and reaps 2-300% higher premiums from DUI arrestees.)
>“Education is important, but we’re to the point where almost everyone knows they shouldn’t drink and drive. The people who are still doing it are choosing to do it. The most effective way to deal with them is to arrest them.” David Kelly, MADD, Virginia chapter. (All 80% of the population—and hurry up about it!)
>July, 03 NHTSA radio script: “Impairment starts with the first drink and driving impaired is a crime,” “If you drive impaired you’ll get caught.” (MADD policy, government policy. Same people. The distinction blurs.)
>“Lowering the legal [arrest] standard will be a deterrent for light drinkers as well as heavy drinkers. There is no safe blood alcohol level, and for that reason, responsible drinking and driving means no drinking and driving.”—Catherine Prescott, former President, MADD. (They swear they are not for Prohibition, really.)
“Drunk driving is the most frequently committed crime in the nation today. DWI arrests in 1987 totaled an estimated 1,728,000, more than three times the total for all otherviolent crimes (murder, forcible rape, robbery and aggravated assault).”—MADD pamphlet. (Drunk driving=violent crime=rape, murder. Get the message.)
>Drunk driving continues to be the most frequently committed violent crime. —MADD’s Wendy Hamilton, Nov 21, 2002. (To be violent, shouldn’t a crime always have a victim?)
>From the NHTSA: “Although every year 1.5 million impaired drivers are arrested, only one arrest is made for every 772 occurrences of driving under the influence of alcohol.” (That’s 1.158 Billion occurrences of violent, mostly victimless crimes every year! And 1,158,000,000 potential arrests each year. We need one BIG jail. Note also that drunk driving is now impaired driving.)
“…we do not want to overlook the casual drinker. If you choose to drink, you should never drive. We will not tolerate drinking and driving-period.”—MADD President, Karolyn Nunnallee. (They swear they are not for Prohibition, honest.)
>“Mr. Howarth, how many fatal accidents do cell phone users cause every year versus drunk drivers?”
“I have absolutely no idea, nor do I care.” — Brian Williams and MADD lobbyist Tom Howarth, MSNBC, March 4, 1998. (Cell phone use has been equated to a BAC of .10 (drunk). MADD supports cell phone use while driving, so you can report drunk drivers.)
“In El Salvador, a first offense results in execution by firing squad.” In fact, an attorney from the Salvadoran Embassy phoned Chaloupka demanding that MADD stop lying about El Salvador’s driving laws.—Detroit News, 4-27-91. (Lucky we live here where it’s only jail, fine & license suspension.)
>”Good morning, I’m James Fell. I am a national board member for Mothers Against Drunk Driving and the Director of Traffic Safety and Enforcement Programs at the Pacific Institute for Research and Evaluation [PIRE]. Before joining PIRE, I spent 30 years at the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration.” (MADD policy, government policy. Same people, same policy.)
MADD board member and PIRE researcher Robert Voas admitted, “Drivers in the .08 to .09 range often do not exhibit the blatant erratic driving of higher BAC offenders, so that the evidence for probable cause may not be present for stopping a vehicle.” (Note to MADD, “He forgot to say drunk drivers.” Perhaps we should call them closet drunks since they don’t exhibit any clues to their real identity. PIRE is responsible for many of the alcohol studies that MADD & the NHTSA use.)
>”In Fairfax County, Virginia the cops are arresting drunks — get this — in bars. That’s right. They are going into bars and dragging people outside to determine if they are drunk. And if they are, wham-bam, it’s into the slammer, Sam!” —Dec, 02. FOX news. (The Untouchables, Virginia style.)
MADD’s reaction to the news: “In our view, law enforcement is doing its job,” said Chuck Hurley, an official with the National Transportation Council and former national board member of Mothers Against Drunk Driving. (MADD policy, government policy. Same people, same policy.)
>“If .08% is good, .05% is better. That’s where we’re headed, it doesn’t mean that we should get there all at once. But ultimately it should be .02%.”—Steve Simon, Chairman, Minnesota State DUI Task Force (Why stop there? “00” is such an easy number to remember.)
>“We may wind up in this country going to zero tolerance, period.”—U.S. Senator and MADD supporter Barbara Boxer (D-CA). (California always wants to be first.)
>”The National Crackdown is a partnership of criminal justice and traffic safety partners in all 50 States joining forces to catch impaired drivers and to lock them up.”—NHTSA, July, 2003 (Impaired drivers are the new violent criminals and police are now called traffic safety partners. The proposal is to stop 93 million drivers at sobriety checkpoints as soon as taxpayer funds are received. Look for a catchy label without the work checkpoint in it, maybe “Safe & Secure Streets Campaign”.)
>”Because of the heightened visibility checkpoints give to DWI law enforcement, they are especially valuable and effective as a general deterrent… If the public is aware the police will be conducting checkpoints… they drink less,” From a MADD speech.(Fear of the government and the police is a desirable thing, evidently.)
>“We cannot have the kind of country we want if people are afraid of those folks who are trying to protect them.” -President William Clinton. (Unlike George Bush, Clinton was never arrested for drunk driving and his chauffeur doesn’t drink.)
>U.S. Transportation Secretary Norm Mineta said “If you drink and drive, you lose. Today we’re putting drunk drivers on notice: If we catch you drinking and driving, we will arrest you and prosecute you.” (Now drunk driving is a federal offense!)
>Last year 17,274 Americans lost their lives on our nation’s highways in alcohol-related fatal traffic crashes. This number constituted the first increase in drunk driving fatalities in a decade. Katherine P. Prescott, President, (MADD) Senate speech, May 7, 1997. (Here in the same paragraph is alcohol related equated to drunk driving. This in a speech to Congress.)
>”This compendium incorporates MADD ‘s position on each issue, sample laws, sample testimony or speeches, and other useful resource information…“— NHTSA Zero Tolerance Underage Drinking website. (To save money they could combine the NHTSA and MADD logos.)
>Paul Mulshine, Star-Ledger Staff, July 20, 2003—“[Quote by]…MADD president Wendy Hamilton in a Reuters article just prior to the July 4, (2003) weekend: “Last year, 18,000 people were killed in drunk driving crashes.” This not true, however. The MADD people admitted that when I phoned their Washington office.
“She may have been misquoted or she may have misspoken,” said spokesperson Stephanie Manning when I asked her about Hamilton’s statement. “The official line is to say ‘alcohol-related deaths.'”
I asked Hamilton if she knew exactly how many people were actually killed by drivers who were legally drunk in 2002. She said she didn’t, but she invited me to call the National Highway Traffic and Safety Administration.
The NHTSA spokesman said he didn’t know either. But he was kind enough to point out that the “alcohol-related” category employed by Mothers Against Drunk Driving includes a great number of accidents in which the participants were either not drunk or not driving. If a car hits you as you walk across the street after having a glass of wine with dinner, for example, then the .01 blood-alcohol content in your corpse will be sufficient for NHTSA to classify your untimely demise as alcohol-related – even though the driver was totally sober…” (Just an innocent misspoken statement, ala another president, named Nixon.) CLICK HERE for the complete news article
>”Lowering the legal [arrest] standard will be a deterrent for light drinkers as well as heavy drinkers.”—Former MADD President, Prescott. (“And vengeance is mine,” said the Lord.)
quotes compilation compliments of MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving)
I’m often asked to write in PTSD therapy. There are times I volunteer certain things because writing other than technical pieces has helped me lately. I told Patrick in therapy on Monday that I was going to write a “Year in Review” from the perspective of my life and personal growth I experienced in 2013… so as usual, I’m just sitting here staring at a blinking cursor. The year in review sounds so finite… as though what I am reviewing were ending at 11:59:59pm on New Year’s Eve… It all adds up to a fixed number and it doesn’t change.
I’m not delivering on a year in review… it’s just a gregorian thing… and the fact it’s 2014 doesn’t mean I’m going to write about “things” that would be assumed finished at the end of 2013. Por el contrario, mi pueblo, it’s just another day in a life that has a lot of meaning.
What’s the compromise in all this? The heading of course… “2013: The Year in Review is My 2014 New Year’s Resolution”. I choose to mash them together and stay the course I’m on.
A New Year’s resolution is a promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year.
I have a problem with this definition. I need to continue doing what I’m doing… not change it and I don’t know that I am doing something, anything bad that I would have to resolve to stop. The implication is that you start or stop doing something, generally something that is unattainable. 40% of Americans indulge in setting these fixed resolves and most fail… miserably.
The fact is, a peer reviewed study has shown that 88% of people who make new year’s resolutions fail, while 56% of the same people feel their resolution is attainable. 22% of men and 10% of women are more often successful when instead of a resolution, they set attainable goals for themselves with milestones. Not necessarily complicated ones… but rather baby steps, such as saving a dollar a week instead of just saying, I want to save money in 2014, or losing weight or gaining (in my case) a pound of weight a week instead of a simple I want to gain weight. Both men and women have been shown to have better success when their resolution or goal is made public or shared with friends and family, which makes you accountable to them.
Talking to friends, family or whoever you have in your life that you trust. Telling them about your goals will make those goals real and almost tangible, while at the same time getting support and encouragement from that same group of friends and family to perhaps help you succeed.
In order to manufacture a new year’s resolution for yourself, you have to look at and criticize yourself, find your flaws or what is missing or what you have too much of, which in and of itself can be unhealthy. You have to look at yourself and think what’s wrong with yourself… then find what’s wrong, indulge in self-loathing, low esteem, depression, unhappiness, impatience and I think the biggest is a bad self-image. All of these create failure because the resolve may be unattainable since they are just words and not actions. This creates more self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, impatience, unhappiness and the distortion of your image in a mirror.
Resolutions such as these will, more often than not, result in failure: I want to lose weight, I want to get healthy, I want to eat healthy, I want to exercise more, I want to break bad habits, I want to quit smoking, I want to stop drinking, I want to stop wasting money, I want to save for retirement, I want to learn how to and maintain a budget.
Case in point… My friend, brother… let’s, for the sake of this disclosure call him, Mr Carverhall… just a few minutes ago he revealed his new year’s resolution to me (via facetime)… I had to ask.. but I got it out of him. He said… “I want to be wealthy”. I thought… OK… now he’s going to tell me how or for what he is to get wealthy. Is this just for the sake of being wealthy? What does he want to buy or give when he’s wealthy that he doesn’t already have or have given, besides a private jet timeshare? He tells me nothing… other than to cross some imaginary “class” line, which he has done and fails to recognize. Much of what he has, he cannot purchase with money even though he has it and the reverse is true as well as he is able to provide for his mom, who I love too. (besos los dos) To be getting married… (besos los tres) no date yet… no wedding planner. He gets to see me and/or my son Jason at least once or twice a week… sometimes for half the day. That alone should make him think to himself… I’m the wealthiest man in the world. But he doesn’t. I love him anyway… and I make sure I tell him.
WHAT IF you are on the right path? What if the path you’re on is already headed in the right direction? What if you don’t want to change a thing or your direction? What if 2013 (all things considered) was the best year of your life?
WHAT IF, when looking back at 2013 I think of nothing but good things, good experiences a personally fulfilling year on the grandest of scales, with the exception being a pulmonary embolism, but there was even good in that since I am breathing better than I have in years.
WHAT IF I realized I was truly happy for the first time in my life in 2013 and I still am. What if I felt loved for the first time in my life in 2013 and still do. What if I started learning how to both accept and share love, nurturing and affection for the first time in my life in 2013. 🙂 I have a Mom for the first time in my life and I got her in 2013 when she chose me for adoption with five simple words that instantly healed a very lunch chunk of me. I have an entire family and I got them on June 11, 2013 with my mom when the judge stamped and signed the adoption decree. My family gives me more in a day than I thought I would ever receive in a lifetime. Even if nobody says a word. It’s almost overwhelming, but I’m just going with the flow that started in 2013 and it’s still going. Thank you mom. I love you.
So, here’s the thing. I don’t need no stinkin’ New Year’s Resolution. Things will be just fine without one.
My son sent me an image with some text asking me to write it down because he was on his iPhone… huh? He never told me what to do with it so I’ve been sitting on it since New Year’s Eve. I don’t think it was for me… it was probably for his love interest, but most of it works for me… Thank you Jason. I love you, my son.
“Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.
Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away.” [George Carlin}
The year 2013 really made life worth living for me because of the people that are in my life every day. I love every single last one of you. You help give my life meaning. You give me a reason to live. And it’s good to be alive. Don’t need a New Year’s resolution for that and my life is not a review.
References: [Me, My Mom, My Son, Mr. Carverhall, Richard Wiseman, Frank Ra, George Carlin, Wall Street Journal]
“The average human being is actually quite bad at predicting what he or she should do in order to be happier, and this inability to predict keeps people from, well, being happier. In fact, psychologist Daniel Gilbert has made a career out of demonstrating that human beings are downright awful at predicting their own likes and dislikes. For example, most research subjects strongly believe that another $30,000 a year in income would make them much happier. And they feel equally strongly that adding a 30-minute walk to their daily routine would be of trivial import. And yet Dr. Gilbert’s research suggests that the added income is far less likely to produce an increase in happiness than the addition of a regular walk.”
? Kerry Patterson, Influencer: The Power to Change Anything
“Happiness is not something that you can find, acquire, or achieve directly. You have to get the conditions right and then wait. Some of those conditions are within you, such as coherence among the parts and levels of your personality. Other conditions require relationships to things beyond you: Just as plants need sun, water, and good soil to thrive, people need love, work, and a connection to something larger. It is worth striving to get the right relationships between yourself and others, between yourself and your work, and between yourself and something larger thank yourself. If you get these relationships right, a sense of purpose and meaning will emerge.”
? Jonathan Haidt, The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom
“If someone offered the chance to be happy for the rest of your life, everyone in the room will bid, but what they don’t know that the secret is nothing, they all have the power already with them.
One of the most bizarre quirks of human beings is that they have always craved for happiness and yet have always found it difficult to find the things that would really make them happy. The everlasting happiness cannot be achieved through other people or the materialistic things.”
? RKSJ, A Short Affair Called Life
“One of the causes of unhappiness among intellectuals in the present day is that so many of them, especially those whose skill is literary, find no opportunity for the independent exercise of their talents, but have to hire themselves out to rich corporations directed by Philistines, who insist upon their producing what they themselves regard as pernicious nonsense. If you were to inquire among journalists in either England or America whether they believed in the policy of the newspaper for which they worked, you would find, I believe, that only a small minority do so; the rest, for the sake of a livelihood, prostitute their skill to purposes which they believe to be harmful. Such work cannot bring any real satisfaction, and in the course of reconciling himself to the doing of it, a man has to make himself so cynical that he can no longer derive whole-hearted satisfaction from anything whatever. I cannot condemn men who undertake work of this sort, since starvation is too serious an alternative, but I think that where it is possible to do work that is satisfactory to man’s constructive impulses without entirely starving, he will be well advised from the point of view of his own happiness if he chooses it in preference to work much more highly paid but not seeming to him worth doing on its own account. Without self-respect genuine happiness is scarcely possible. And the man who is ashamed of his work can hardly achieve self-respect.”
? Bertrand Russell