Marc’s Random Thought of the Day, 29 January 2014 – CONvictions

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    Poster advertising a meeting in support of the Walsall Anarchists (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    If you are absolute and refuse to read, learn, understand, empathize, or even speak to who or what you demonize, how will you ever learn more about you… yourself, and cultivate deeper perception, awareness, comprehension into what you believe yourself? The things that have the most value when it comes to learning and understanding are exactly the things worth exploring and are worth reading, have the most value and, more accurately, those that challenge our convictions. Before you use a simple label for anything you question or take issue with, no matter what, you must be knowledgable enough to think for yourself and come to your own conclusion. Trust no one’s voice but your own, but before you judge others, make sure you have clean hands and use a purely factual challenge without any labels. It doesn’t matter if it is political, social, cultural or religious… the same mandate applies. [Marc Gilbert-Widmann January 29, 2014]

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Marc’s Thought of the Day 11 January 2014 – Target

SuperTarget logo, 2006–present.

SuperTarget logo, 2006–present. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It was before Thanksgiving and it might have been before Halloween. I remember specifically the first Christmas commercial I saw this year was from Target. And I said to myself, “these bastards are opening on Thanksgiving” AND they push back the calendar used for Christmas advertising a bit farther.

I consciously said to myself, “I will no longer shop at Target”… At least last year… for ruining Thanksgiving for so many thousands of employees along with their families and for so many unsuspecting mis-guided shoppers and their families who for some imaginary fear of loss leave their family to camp out as if they were in the forest waiting for the door to open for a hand full of door-busters and everything else of mediocre value and not the lowest price of the year or ever. To be honest, the target is more appropriate at the gun range.

At this point, I think I spoke too loudly or my sphere of influence is a tad larger than I thought it was. I spoke ill of the company along with those who would cross the threshold into a demonic big box store that has always had a target on it’s back.

This attack and theft of credit card and/or other personally identifiable information as we are now being told which includes email address and more. This means that instead of just names and card numbers… we have pin #’s and cvv’s and other information which created complete identity theft. The impact is completely unknown at this point and now in the hands of banks, merchant processors and their payment gateways along with the card labels. The truth is we may never know the true impact of opening stores on Thanksgiving or if it has anything to do with the cyber-attack and theft of customer data.

This societal infraction by the board of director’s at Target has taken us one step closer to a permanent all year multi-holiday sale cycle including that fear of loss (again). Combine this with the permanent election cycle that never ends and news that is written and or fabricated to be fictional, entertaining and addictive while only “based” on fact. Every news outlet is responsible at some low level for this as they try to attract eye balls.

Is this payback? Do we have to wait until next Labor Day to see who is the first store to start a christmas ad campaign to see if this this type of theft is a social trend or attack or something bigger???

I should really get to the range and see if I can still hit the target with left hand (only), right hand (only), two handed left and two handed right… this is one big target. And you have to qualify by hitting the target by any means necessary.

2013: The Year in Review is My 2014 New Year’s Resolution

I’m often asked to write in PTSD therapy. There are times I volunteer certain things because writing other than technical pieces has helped me lately. I told Patrick in therapy on Monday that I was going to write a “Year in Review” from the perspective of my life and personal growth I experienced in 2013… so as usual, I’m just sitting here staring at a blinking cursor. The year in review sounds so finite… as though what I am reviewing were ending at 11:59:59pm on New Year’s Eve… It all adds up to a fixed number and it doesn’t change.
I’m not delivering on a year in review… it’s just a gregorian thing… and the fact it’s 2014 doesn’t mean I’m going to write about “things” that would be assumed finished at the end of 2013. Por el contrario, mi pueblo, it’s just another day in a life that has a lot of meaning.
What’s the compromise in all this? The heading of course… “2013: The Year in Review is My 2014 New Year’s Resolution”. I choose to mash them together and stay the course I’m on.
Web definitions
  1. A New Year’s resolution is a promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year.
English: Two New Year's Resolutions postcards

English: Two New Year’s Resolutions postcards (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I have a problem with this definition. I need to continue doing what I’m doing… not change it and I don’t know that I am doing something, anything bad that I would have to resolve to stop. The implication is that you start or stop doing something, generally something that is unattainable. 40% of Americans indulge in setting these fixed resolves and most fail… miserably.

The fact is, a peer reviewed study has shown that 88% of people who make new year’s resolutions fail, while 56% of the same people feel their resolution is attainable. 22% of men and 10% of women are more often successful when instead of a resolution, they set attainable goals for themselves with milestones. Not necessarily complicated ones… but rather baby steps, such as saving a dollar a week instead of just saying, I want to save money in 2014, or losing weight or gaining (in my case) a pound of weight a week instead of a simple I want to gain weight. Both men and women have been shown to have better success when their resolution or goal is made public or shared with friends and family, which makes you accountable to them.

Talking to friends, family or whoever you have in your life that you trust. Telling them about your goals will make those goals real and almost tangible, while at the same time getting support and encouragement from that same group of friends and family to perhaps help you succeed.

In order to manufacture a new year’s resolution for yourself, you have to look at and criticize yourself, find your flaws or what is missing or what you have too much of, which in and of itself can be unhealthy. You have to look at yourself and think what’s wrong with yourself… then find what’s wrong, indulge in self-loathing, low esteem, depression, unhappiness, impatience and I think the biggest is a bad self-image. All of these create failure because the resolve may be unattainable since they are just words and not actions. This creates more self-loathing, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, impatience, unhappiness and the distortion of your image in a mirror.

Resolutions such as these will, more often than not, result in failure: I want to lose weight, I want to get healthy, I want to eat healthy, I want to exercise more, I want to break bad habits, I want to quit smoking, I want to stop drinking, I want to stop wasting money, I want to save for retirement, I want to learn how to and maintain a budget.

New year's resolutions

New year’s resolutions (Photo credit: malglam)

Case in point… My friend, brother… let’s, for the sake of this disclosure call him, Mr Carverhall… just a few minutes ago he revealed his new year’s resolution to me (via facetime)… I had to ask.. but I got it out of him. He said… “I want to be wealthy”. I thought… OK… now he’s going to tell me how or for what he is to get wealthy. Is this just for the sake of being wealthy? What does he want to buy or give when he’s wealthy that he doesn’t already have or have given, besides a private jet timeshare? He tells me nothing… other than to cross some imaginary “class” line, which he has done and fails to recognize. Much of what he has, he cannot purchase with money even though he has it and the reverse is true as well as he is able to provide for his mom, who I love too. (besos los dos) To be getting married… (besos los tres) no date yet… no wedding planner. He gets to see me and/or my son Jason at least once or twice a week… sometimes for half the day. That alone should make him think to himself… I’m the wealthiest man in the world. But he doesn’t. I love him anyway… and I make sure I tell him.

WHAT IF you are on the right path? What if the path you’re on is already headed in the right direction? What if you don’t want to change a thing or your direction? What if 2013 (all things considered) was the best year of your life?

WHAT IF, when looking back at 2013 I think of nothing but good things, good experiences a personally fulfilling year on the grandest of scales, with the exception being a pulmonary embolism, but there was even good in that since I am breathing better than I have in years.

WHAT IF I realized I was truly happy for the first time in my life in 2013 and I still am. What if I felt loved for the first time in my life in 2013 and still do. What if I started learning how to both accept and share love, nurturing and affection for the first time in my life in 2013. 🙂 I have a Mom for the first time in my life and I got her in 2013 when she chose me for adoption with five simple words that instantly healed a very lunch chunk of me. I have an entire family and I got them on June 11, 2013 with my mom when the judge stamped and signed the adoption decree. My family gives me more in a day than I thought I would ever receive in a lifetime. Even if nobody says a word. It’s almost overwhelming, but I’m just going with the flow that started in 2013 and it’s still going. Thank you mom. I love you.

So, here’s the thing. I don’t need no stinkin’ New Year’s Resolution. Things will be just fine without one.

My son sent me an image with some text asking me to write it down because he was on his iPhone… huh? He never told me what to do with it so I’ve been sitting on it since New Year’s Eve. I don’t think it was for me… it was probably for his love interest, but most of it works for me… Thank you Jason. I love you, my son.

“Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side. 

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you. 

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away.” [George Carlin}

The year 2013 really made life worth living for me because of the people that are in my life every day. I love every single last one of you. You help give my life meaning. You give me a reason to live. And it’s good to be alive. Don’t need a New Year’s resolution for that and my life is not a review.

References: [Me, My Mom, My Son, Mr. Carverhall, Richard Wiseman, Frank Ra, George Carlin, Wall Street Journal]

 

 

Quote of the Day 31 December 2013 – Relationship

Wine glass.

Wine glass. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“There is a relationship between the eye contacts we make and the perceptions that we create in our heads, a relationship between the sound of another’s voice and the emotions that we feel in our hearts, a relationship between our movements in space all around us and the magnetic pulls we can create between others and ourselves. All of these things (and more) make up the magic of every ordinary day and if we are able to live in this magic, to feel and to dwell in it, we will find ourselves living with magic every day. These are the white spaces in life, the spaces in between the written lines, the cracks in which the sunlight filters into. Some of us swim in the overflowing of the wine glass of life, we stand and blink our eyes in the sunlight reaching unseen places, we know where to find the white spaces, we live in magic.”
C. JoyBell C.

“Santa’s Beard Has Always Been White” – His Beard, Say I…

A VISIT FROM ST NICHOLAS, HIS “RACIALLY BENIGN” BEARD ALL WHITE. THE REST IT MATTERS NOT, WHAT THE COLOR IS, ONLY A SLEIGH FULL OF TOYS FOR CHILDREN OF ALL RACE, COLOR AND CREED.

“The Night Before Christmas

1 ‘Twas the night before Christmas, when all thro’ the house,
2 Not a creature was stirring, not even a mouse;
3 The stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
4 In hopes that St. Nicholas soon would be there;
5 The children were nestled all snug in their beds,
6 While visions of sugar plums danc’d in their heads,
7 And Mama in her ‘kerchief, and I in my cap,
8 Had just settled our brains for a long winter’s nap-
9 When out on the lawn there arose such a clatter,
10 I sprang from the bed to see what was the matter.
11 Away to the window I flew like a flash,
12 Tore open the shutters, and threw up the sash.
13 The moon on the breast of the new fallen snow,
14 Gave the lustre of mid-day to objects below;
15 When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
16 But a minature sleigh, and eight tiny rein-deer,
17 With a little old driver, so lively and quick,
18 I knew in a moment it must be St. Nick.
19 More rapid than eagles his coursers they came,
20 And he whistled, and shouted, and call’d them by name:
21 “Now! Dasher, now! Dancer, now! Prancer, and Vixen,
22 “On! Comet, on! Cupid, on! Dunder and Blixem;
23 “To the top of the porch! to the top of the wall!
24 “Now dash away! dash away! dash away all!”
25 As dry leaves before the wild hurricane fly,
26 When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky;
27 So up to the house-top the coursers they flew,
28 With the sleigh full of Toys – and St. Nicholas too:
29 And then in a twinkling, I heard on the roof
30 The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
31 As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
32 Down the chimney St. Nicholas came with a bound:
33 He was dress’d all in fur, from his head to his foot,
34 And his clothes were all tarnish’d with ashes and soot;
35 A bundle of toys was flung on his back,
36 And he look’d like a peddler just opening his pack:
37 His eyes – how they twinkled! his dimples how merry,
38 His cheeks were like roses, his nose like a cherry;
39 His droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
40 And the beard of his chin was as white as the snow;
41 The stump of a pipe he held tight in his teeth,
42 And the smoke it encircled his head like a wreath.
43 He had a broad face, and a little round belly
44 That shook when he laugh’d, like a bowl full of jelly:
45 He was chubby and plump, a right jolly old elf,
46 And I laugh’d when I saw him in spite of myself;
47 A wink of his eye and a twist of his head
48 Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.
49 He spoke not a word, but went straight to his work,
50 And fill’d all the stockings; then turn’d with a jerk,
51 And laying his finger aside of his nose
52 And giving a nod, up the chimney he rose.
53 He sprung to his sleigh, to his team gave a whistle,
54 And away they all flew, like the down of a thistle:
55 But I heard him exclaim, ere he drove out of sight-
56 Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good night.

Santa's deers are waiting, in the 1905 film &q...

Santa’s deers are waiting, in the 1905 film “The Night Before Christmas” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Quote of theDay 19 December 2013 – Self-Respect

Russell Doesn't Fear 11/28/08

Russell Doesn’t Fear 11/28/08 (Photo credit: visibleducts)

“One of the causes of unhappiness among intellectuals in the present day is that so many of them, especially those whose skill is literary, find no opportunity for the independent exercise of their talents, but have to hire themselves out to rich corporations directed by Philistines, who insist upon their producing what they themselves regard as pernicious nonsense. If you were to inquire among journalists in either England or America whether they believed in the policy of the newspaper for which they worked, you would find, I believe, that only a small minority do so; the rest, for the sake of a livelihood, prostitute their skill to purposes which they believe to be harmful. Such work cannot bring any real satisfaction, and in the course of reconciling himself to the doing of it, a man has to make himself so cynical that he can no longer derive whole-hearted satisfaction from anything whatever. I cannot condemn men who undertake work of this sort, since starvation is too serious an alternative, but I think that where it is possible to do work that is satisfactory to man’s constructive impulses without entirely starving, he will be well advised from the point of view of his own happiness if he chooses it in preference to work much more highly paid but not seeming to him worth doing on its own account. Without self-respect genuine happiness is scarcely possible. And the man who is ashamed of his work can hardly achieve self-respect.”
Bertrand Russell